Since I was a kid, I was interested in art. This interest mostly came about through osmosis of my dad's profession of being an artist. From there, I got into graffiti art in High School. There was a graffiti art club and I joined it through the influence of a few friends.
After I got into the grind of college, I pretty much dropped art altogether. After graduating and started working, I decided to pick it up again, but this time with the focus of anime. This was when I really started to study art - anatomy, colors, compositions, lighting, etc. I mostly did digital. I felt like I really broke through with my fundamentals in this phase.
I am getting back into art again and I want to get back into graffiti art thanks to David Choe's recent appearance on Joe Rogan. I don't think it's worth the tradeoffs to do it illegally, but I do want to do things with cans eventually. You can get some cool effects with the spray. I want to explore oil on canvas as well. You can make some really amazing looking pieces. I'm currently working with watercolor and it's been good.
I don't want to do anime art anymore. I realize that it's limiting to follow a certain style. For my art's direction, I want to focus on social justice in the United States. There's been a lot of turmoil lately and I want to use art to spread awareness or invoke emotion. Hopefully I can make a side income from this as well.
One of the most grateful things I am for my father, is to tell me NOT to get into art despite being an artist himself. It's really tough to make it as an artist, and I'm blessed from my decisions for going into computer science.
So before reading this, I had terrible luck in getting dates and only had 2 dates in the past year! One of them, I ended up having an extended relationship with, but that's a story for another day. My goal from following the guide was to get better at this dating game with apps.
I had some shitty pics taken spontaneously by friends on their mobile cameras. I had no aim when talking to girls. I would rattle on and on about random shit and never actually meet up. My theory before was to keep the dialog going and see if we get attached well enough before meeting up. Unfortunately, I didn't realize that girls have tons of options on these apps and will lose interest extremely fast.
Improvements
Alright so, first thing was to get better pictures. I have a DSLR camera, so I decided to take some pics of myself doing random everyday stuff. Typing on a keyboard for work, cooking, shirtless and doing gymnastics rings - he recommends having a shirtless pic if you have a good body.
I also updated my bio to something he recommends. He also recommends to remove all "characteristics" on Bumble to increase the size of your market. I thought this was genius. He also recommends including the bisexual orientation to yourself, but honestly I'm not sure how helpful this was.
Messaging
Next was the template on how to talk to girls. He recommends to meet up ASAP. Within 3 days otherwise your chances grow slim. If this was Hinge, I would say something about their picture or profile, otherwise in the actual chat, I usually start with "Hey you look (cute|pretty|sexy). <Something witty from a picture if possible>. I'm <name>. How's it going?" The choice of cute, pretty, or sexy really depends on their pictures. Then I respond to whatever they say and ask "what do you like to do?" I respond to what they say, then say "You seem pretty cool. I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment. If you're down to grab coffee or happy hour, drop me your digits." From there I would text them "Hey <name>, this is <name>." Just in case it's a fake or wrong number. Also to see if they're really interested or not. I'd ask them for their availability this week to meet up.
Result
I've only met up with one girl after using this method. I wasn't too into her, so that was that.
Here's a shot of what my stats from each app looks like in 35 days:
Tinder is heavily skewed because I bought Gold for it. The boosts and super likes really help.
If you take a look at Hinge, the percentages other than the "percentage accepted" stat are significantly higher and I never bought a subscription. My theory is that I'm an Asian male and I made my preferences as Asian, therefore I was able to target the market that were more inclined to date me. This proves the belief that Asian males are the least desired men in the sexual marketplace. Bumble just sucks - even when I was running the free trial phase.
Wrap Up
Next thing I'm going to try to do is to take more pictures and see which ones in which order works the best.
The verdict is that KillYourInnerLoser's guide is pretty damn good. Let's see where things will be in another month.
Beginning of August. Last chance to do summer activities!
Went to a cabin by a lake which was owned by a teammate's stepfather and it was pretty chill!
Had a good amount of philosophical discussions with one teammate, taught another the basics of floating on your back for the back stroke, and tried paddle boarding.
I will say that paddle boarding isn't really my thing. I tried shrooms for the first time as well, but that just gave me a really mellow buzz and that was it.
Aside from that, my goal is to continue experiencing more of life and trying new things. I believe this maximizes our lives as it changes our perception of time to be a lot slower.
To do this I want to automate as much menial things that take up mental and physical bandwidth. One thing is stock investing. I wanted to setup a monthly buy in with my current cash pile in Robinhood, but ended up setting limit orders instead of setting up the recurring system. Retrospectively this was a mistake as Square stock shot up by 10% today... I'll see how things go tomorrow before setting up the recurring buy in.
My plan is to do 80% in Apple and Amazon, and 20% in riskier plays like Tesla, Lemonade, and Square. This way I can feel comfortable with my money in large cap tech companies that I don't see going away anytime soon. I'm not too keen on investing in S&P 500 because a lot of companies in the list are companies I don't really care about.
Aside from that, I spoke to a potential mortgage lender from Fairway about getting preapproved for a loan. He mentioned that he was able to do a jumbo loan with loans above 750k at a rate of 3.25%, which is pretty good. I'm hoping to buy something in SF so that I can be in a place where I feel I can be happy. I have a good amount of friends there, and family of course. I also want to be near the Giants ballpark since I'm a big fan of baseball. Before doing so, I want to experience what it's like to work from New York. Maybe I can do a week of work from New York if my boss lets me. I hear it's pretty easy for guys to get girls there and I wanna see for myself. Maybe I'll end up moving there instead? Who knows, let's explore this country a bit!
After this covid ordeal and Maria, I've taken upon a new stance in life. To make my own happiness my priority. I don't really care about dating, marriage, or starting a family anymore.
Thanks to a recent podcast with David Choe and his suggestion to paint Joe Rogan, I did just that. And yes, he does have a beautifully shaped skull. Nice oval shape with smooth curves.
